Every girl dreams about falling in love and having a Disney Princess wedding, and living "happily ever after". Unfortunately Disney forgot to inform us that life moves on after the wedding. Too many people focus too much on preparing for the wedding and not enough preparing for marriage. Disney teaches us that you will meet someone, fall instantly in love, and then live "happily ever after". People should not get married solely based on the fact that they love each other, but other important factors need to be considered.
It is very important to get to know the person that you are going to marry. Couples need to have their relationship based off of the similar goals and values that each of them share. Marriage is the blending of a man and a woman who are different from each other and also have families that are different from the other. No one is exactly the same and therefore conflict is inevitable. The saying "happy people don't have conflict" is a marriage/family myth. Because the couple is happily in love it does not mean that there could not be any conflict. Many conflicts, arguments and disagreements come with marriage. It is important for the couple to learn how to get past these conflicts and learn how to improvise and be able to give some things up.
So if marriage is so difficult then why do it, right? Wrong. Marriage is one of the things that will make your life so much more satisfactory than not being married. Marriage gives you a team mate in this game of life that is committed to you and will make both of you better people. Marriage teaches you to be selfless, to improvise, become responsible, love unconditionally, and so many other things. Nothing can replace marriage and the family unit. Many things such as co-habitation and casual sexual relationships try to replace marriage and the benefits that come with it, but they will never come close to actually being married and fully committed to your spouse.
Disney's view on happily ever after is a bit skewed, but we are able to build our own happily ever after through hard work and commitment to our spouse and marriage.
I totally agree with this. You hit it right on the nail!!!
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