Disney Lied To Us

Every girl dreams about falling in love and having a Disney Princess wedding, and living "happily ever after". Unfortunately Disney forgot to inform us that life moves on after the wedding. Too many people focus too much on preparing for the wedding and not enough preparing for marriage. Disney teaches us that you will meet someone, fall instantly in love, and then live "happily ever after". People should not get married solely based on the fact that they love each other, but other important factors need to be considered. 

It is very important to get to know the person that you are going to marry. Couples need to have their relationship based off of the similar goals and values that each of them share. Marriage is the blending of a man and a woman who are different from each other and also have families that are different from the other. No one is exactly the same and therefore conflict is inevitable. The saying "happy people don't have conflict" is a marriage/family myth. Because the couple is happily in love it does not mean that there could not be any conflict. Many conflicts, arguments and disagreements come with marriage. It is important for the couple to learn how to get past these conflicts and learn how to improvise and be able to give some things up.

So if marriage is so difficult then why do it, right? Wrong. Marriage is one of the things that will make your life so much more satisfactory than not being married. Marriage gives you a team mate in this game of life that is committed to you and will make both of you better people. Marriage teaches you to be selfless, to improvise, become responsible, love unconditionally, and so many other things. Nothing can replace marriage and the family unit. Many things such as co-habitation and casual sexual relationships try to replace marriage and the benefits that come with it, but they will never come close to actually being married and fully committed to your spouse. 

Disney's view on happily ever after is a bit skewed, but we are able to build our own happily ever after through hard work and commitment to our spouse and marriage.  

This is Something That I Feel Everyone Should Read, Because This is What I Believe a Family is

The Family

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A Proclamation to the World

The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshipped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.

Here we go, my first blog! I am required to start a blog for my Family Relations class here at school, Brigham Young University of Idaho. I am excited be able to share my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs with others. This blog is mainly going to be about families and what I learn about it in class, and what I have come to know and believe about it. First of all I believe that the family is the most sacred unit here on earth. I know that Heavenly Father gave us the opportunity to have a family to help each and every one of us learn and grow. I am so very grateful for my family and the love that we have for each other. Because each of us strives to lift each other up we have become stronger individually as well as a unit. I love my family and I am so glad that Heavenly Father gave them to me.